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Writers- Is Negative Social Media Impacting You and What To Do About It?

I noticed a trend in my recent adventures between blogging, the twitter-sphere, and Facebook. It seemed that a high proportion of posts were either self-deprecating or down-right self-negating.

Then I noticed another trend. My time if often split between my writing buddies and my Tri-geek friends. I would feel much more positive after immersing myself in athlete posts than when my input was primarily from writers. From writers, I walked away with the echoes of self-doubt, the hardships of getting published, the futility…wait…scratch that. (Positive self-talk, positive-self talk…)

  • Posts from writers tended to be much more negative, including blatant statements that the poster’s own writing is horrible or will never get published, that critique partners dislike their work, or that the manuscript they have poured their life blood into is a piece of (insert expletive of choice here).
  • On the other hand, the athlete posts trended toward the positive– focuses included upcoming race goals, asking for tips to improve run splits, sharing personal accomplishments, cheering folks on. Heck, the Ironman Arizona 2017 Facebook page is STILL highly active, even with the race long gone, with folks sharing even their cool new deals on athlete apparel. (It’s actually a pretty cool group).

The pharmacist in me made me turn the whole thing into a study. (Yeah, I’m a real hoot at parties.)

When taking a poll of the posts and Tweets I ran across in one afternoon, here’s a snapshot:

Positive Negative
Twitter (Writers) 10 12 (54%)
Facebook (Writers) 16 8 (33%)
Facebook (Athletes) 23 2 (8 %)

OK. So, now I’m wondering, heck? When I examined the content of posts, I noticed the third trend: writers too often focus on ONE BIG GOAL that may take years, if ever to accomplish- focusing on the potential negativity of that. Yes, others try to support them, but in some cases, the negative posts are ongoing. The athlete posts tended to talk more positively about the BIG goal, and added smaller goals into their lives to support the emotion of attaining that one big hard goal. AND to make them better athletes overall. The more positive writers tended to have smaller goals as well, such as upcoming conferences, short story submissions, etc. Writers tend to be more isolated, in general, whereas athletes tend to either train together or engage together at races.

Most of my Triathlete buddies are like BIG race people- like Ironman length. That goal itself can take a year (or years) of training, taking hours on hours each week away from family, and personal time. 8-hour bike rides on a Saturday (like, every Saturday) away from the kids, the wife, the laundry (wait, that part was nice, actually). Then too exhausted to stay up past 9 pm. Ok, maybe 8pm. (I know some tri-geek parents rock it, doing everything and then some, but many of us are only human, as it turns out.)

The kicker is, with an Ironman, if you crash, or get injured, or your rotator cuff decides to get pinched the week before the race, you lose everything. And at the Ironman sanctioned events, no matter how hard you train, if you don’t cross the finish line in 17 hours (or less), you do NOT get called and Ironman. (Oh, and PLEASE don’t ever call me an Ironwoman. I deserve the Ironman title. I lost sweat and actual real blood for that title). In the blink of an eye, the whole race may be gone, the year of training (see my post on my bike crash-here that almost lost me my first Ironman, but I pulled through! Thank GOD for getting me the help I needed and healing me.) So, these athletes can lose a lot.

Novel writing is A LOT like Ironman training. We write a story, a manuscript, from the depth of our souls for what seems like forever. 70,000 words. 100,000 words. Hours and hours on end at our little writing station we have culled together. For some of us, family and friends are supportive. For others, they think we are nuts. (Oh, wait, that’s the same in Ironman.)

And then? The work has only just begun. Edits, critique partners, edits, (did I mention edits?) and then submitting to agents or Pitch Contests (see here for a cool list of contests, and HERE for FREE submissions of short stories to an anthology that is very widely sold if yours is chosen).

Getting your work read by an agent is an uphill battle, with too often rejection the outcome. We all know the stories of how JK Rowling got rejected 600 billion times (yeah, the stories out there ARE getting a bit exaggerated, but she had her share of rejections from publishers that gotta be just beating themselves up now).

Both groups have BIG goals, that take MASSIVE time, personal life, and emotional buy-in to even attempt. With NO promises of victory. Both can lose a lot in a fraction of a second.

So, why is my social media feed from the athletes so much more positive?

  • I think one half of the answer lies in the fact that many triathletes also have smaller goals during the year. Maybe a few 5K or 10K runs, sometimes dressed as an elf at a Christmas run. Maybe it is a sprint triathlon, or an Olympic distance. A mud run. Maybe some open water swim races. Or maybe they just volunteer to hand out water and cheer others on at a marathon. The point is, they sprinkle the year with smaller goals, smaller achievements to keep the positive power going. They co-mingle with others that understand their brains, what they are trying to achieve. And, in general, negative rhetoric goes nowhere. The overwhelming statements are supportive and positive. 

How to stay positive as a writer in the midst of all those edits and submissions?

  • Many of the more positive writers I see do the same thing athletes do. Ok, no- they aren’t signing up for a race.
    • But think about it- your main manuscript may be a 150,000 word epic fantasy novel, but add into that some smaller projects- short stories, poems, flash fiction.
    • Submit to some magazines or series books (Like the Chicken Soup For…series here).
    • Find other writers to hang out with (like, in person). Yes- I know– many writers are introverts, but let’s be honest, how many people are going to find you locked up in your little writing workshop at home or on the vast twitter sphere alone…FIND PEOPLE. Get into a critique partner group, call your local librarian (they may have a writer’s support group. I had NO CLUE the two branches near me did until I called).
    • Go to a writer’s conference- get to know some writers, meet some agents face-to-face, make connections. Don’t know anyone at the conference? That’s Ok! The last conference I went to some writer stood in the hallway and literally called out “anyone want to go to lunch?” and swarms of introverts popped-up raising my (I mean) their hands. Look! NEW FRIENDS! Not all conferences are far away or expensive. For example, ASU recently did a whole FREE one day writing seminar put on by their MFA students.
    • Get to know people in NaNoWrimo near you, they often meet at local coffee shops for write-ins and to cheer each other on.

And most of all, take social media breaks and monitor for the Social Media feedback you are getting.

  • Is it highly negative? How is that impacting you?
  • Change groups you are associated with. Find groups that are supportive, build you up, and will help keep you moving in the right direction.
  • If your Twitter feed is full of people opining away about their misery in life, it may be getting you emotionally down, too. Bolstering others that are periodically down is one thing, but if it is repetitive or attention seeking negativity, your personal emotional status needs to be considered.

See you at a conference! I may be waving my hand looking for a lunch crowd!

Happy Writing!!



    1. Thanks, John!! I tried to find that this morning before my post. I updated my blog to your 2018 link. Again, thank you! It is in part because of your 2017 list that I have 3 active full manuscript requests out there for my YA Contemporary and am planning my 2018 goals with your calendar.

  1. Gosh that has really made me think. I am very negative about my writing. I think part of it is they way I was brought up never to boast. I do think you have something about cutting it in smaller goals. Something I will try from now on. Thanks for posting this.

    1. I agree with the impact of being brought up to not boast. I was, too. It is just too easy to travel from humble/humility to self-deprecation, especially when so many other seem to push that trend. Twitter and FB are so full of people trashing their writing ability, I don’t understand how that helps them- or what it says to any agents that see it. I’ve taken to only getting down on myself if I procrastinate, instead write (same way I do with my triathlon training). And instead of looking at my writing negatively-because, lets face it, like begets like, and if you think you suck, eventually, you will-I look for ways to make stuff better. CP groups, contests that I probably won’t win, but will get me feedback I need from higher level folks, etc. Also, I’m reading a new reference that I SO wish I’d read before I ever wrote a word. I’ll be doing a review on it when I’m done- it’s THAT inspiring. I’m glad this post helped you. Best of luck!!

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